Hi there men.
My name is Kelsey.
I am not a man.
I am a woman.
Some of you are immediately going to think less of me for that last statement. Some of you are going to dismiss my opinion. That’s not okay, but I ask you to just listen to me for five minutes.
Before I begin, I know a lot of you are going to think throughout this that I’m over reacting, and that not all men are like this.
Because enough men are that I feel I have to say this. And, if you’re as sick of them as I am, listen to me.
No one is entitled to shit.
It’s hard to hear. But it’s the truth. No one is entitled to anything beyond human rights. You aren’t entitled to a fancy car because you know how to drive, you aren’t entitled to book because you know how to read, and you’re not entitled to another person’s body. Ever.
Being kind to someone does not entitle you to their body.
Being in a relationship with someone does not entitle you to their body.
Thinking someone is attractive does not entitle you to their body.
Telling that person that they are attractive does not entitle you to their attention.
Being more physically imposing than others does not entitle you to whatever you want.
I understand loneliness. I understand rejection. I understand feeling like no one will ever love you and not understanding why.
But that doesn’t mean that you are entitled to hurt someone else.
Maybe no one told you that someone not wanting to date you wasn’t the end of the world. Maybe no one told you that you were special just for being you. And that’s not okay.
But expecting others to “pay” for that is not okay either.
You may be thinking “where does this stupid bitch get off?” or “Look, another feminazi.”Whatever. The point isn’t me. The point is you.
You aren’t owed shit.
The world doesn’t owe you shit.
Life doesn’t owe you shit.
Guess what? Life doesn’t owe anyone shit. It’s the way it works. It’s cliché, but life isn’t fair.
Especially not to women.
Admitting that there are problems in the world specific to women doesn’t make your problems less important. Admitting that men cause a lot of these problems doesn’t make you bad for being a man.
Not all men are mass murderers and rapists. It’s okay to feel sorry for people who hurt so much that they hurt lots of people to deal with it. But what they did is not okay. And saying that “not all men” do this is minimizing that some do.
Men are just as likely to be killed by men as women are. We’re in this boat together. Not all men do these terrible things, but the ones that do hurt all of us.
So hi there men. My name is Kelsey. I’m a human. So are you. Let’s work together to make the world safe for all of us.